Weddings and Fathers

To begin on a personal note:

We made a major decision last week about our front door.  I share this with you because it was MAJOR!

I really liked the wood stained door on the front of our house; however, so did the direct western, hot beating sunshine.  It was devouring the wood and especially the lower veneer panels.

We have begrudgingly added the sun blocking screen that can be seen here, but the damage to the door had already been done.

Instead of replacing the whole door unit, we made the major decision to have it painted.  I chose a Bronze Taupe hoping it would both compliment the brick and not fight with the dark gray shutters.

It doesn't look as bad as I was afraid it would.  What do you think?

We are probably one of two houses in our whole subdivision with a painted door.  But, you do what you have to do.

Now, on to the Wednesday Hodgepodge for today.

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1. What happens to the mail at your house?

It is placed on the kitchen bar for one of us to go through ASAP.  Important "to keep" mail is put on the desk in the office to be entered into computer then filed.  The rest is put into the recycle bin or shredded.  Nothing remains on the bar unless it needs immediate attention.

2. Something you always splurge on? Any guilt associated with the splurge?

I'm not normally a splurger, but shoes would be where I don't mind spending a bit more.  My mother taught us from as early as I can remember to "buy the best shoes you can afford even if its one pair  a year."  My aunt also enforced that philosophy.

3. There are many, but what are two important questions you think every bride and groom should ask/answer before they plan their walk down the aisle?

1.  As a believer, I think a couple should not be unequally yoked, so agreeing on their spiritual beliefs and values, as well as where they will worship together is of utmost importance.  Of course, this conversation needs to take place long before the wedding plans, and in fact early in the dating process.

2.  If there are two incomes, will they share a banking account or have separate, and how will the living costs be divided.

PS:  The wedding itself should be a celebration for both the bride and groom, not just a day for the bride to live out her fantasy.  Therefore, I think the groom should have as much input as possible in the planning of the wedding.  I understand not every bride would want camo in her wedding so this suggestion has to be taken with some common sense.  Also as the one-time mother of a groom, I think it is nice to involve the groom's mother as much as is feasible.  I know all families are different and this should not be a hard and fast rule, but as I said, as much as is feasible under the circumstances.

4. What's the best advice your father ever gave you?

My dad was such a wise man and I trusted him explicitly.  Even after and perhaps especially after 24 years, I still miss him and his wisdom.  I do think the best advise he gave was from Proverbs 3:5-7.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart Libby, and lean not on your own understanding;  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.  Do not be wise in your own eye, (which you are prone to do) but fear the Lord and stay away from evil."

5. Your favorite movie where a father features heavily in the storyline?

The original "Father of the Bride" with Spencer Tracy and Elizabeth Taylor.

6. Insert your own random thought here.

I did not have a fancy wedding by any stretch of the imagination, and wouldn't have had one as nice as it was if not for special aunts.

Needless to say I didn't have a professional photographer, but the husband of our pianist who volunteered as their wedding gift to us.

But, since we're talking about weddings and Father's, this is the only picture I have of just the two of us together that day.  It is not the best nor is it very complimentary of either of us, but it is still precious to me.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY DAD!