Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Weddings and Fathers

To begin on a personal note:

We made a major decision last week about our front door.  I share this with you because it was MAJOR!


I really liked the wood stained door on the front of our house; however, so did the direct western, hot beating sunshine.  It was devouring the wood and especially the lower veneer panels.

We have begrudgingly added the sun blocking screen that can be seen here, but the damage to the door had already been done.


Instead of replacing the whole door unit, we made the major decision to have it painted.  I chose a Bronze Taupe hoping it would both compliment the brick and not fight with the dark gray shutters.

It doesn't look as bad as I was afraid it would.  What do you think?

We are probably one of two houses in our whole subdivision with a painted door.  But, you do what you have to do.

Now, on to the Wednesday Hodgepodge for today.
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From this Side of the Pond
1. What happens to the mail at your house?

It is placed on the kitchen bar for one of us to go through ASAP.  Important "to keep" mail is put on the desk in the office to be entered into computer then filed.  The rest is put into the recycle bin or shredded.  Nothing remains on the bar unless it needs immediate attention.

2. Something you always splurge on? Any guilt associated with the splurge?

I'm not normally a splurger, but shoes would be where I don't mind spending a bit more.  My mother taught us from as early as I can remember to "buy the best shoes you can afford even if its one pair  a year."  My aunt also enforced that philosophy.

3. There are many, but what are two important questions you think every bride and groom should ask/answer before they plan their walk down the aisle?

1.  As a believer, I think a couple should not be unequally yoked, so agreeing on their spiritual beliefs and values, as well as where they will worship together is of utmost importance.  Of course, this conversation needs to take place long before the wedding plans, and in fact early in the dating process.

2.  If there are two incomes, will they share a banking account or have separate, and how will the living costs be divided.

PS:  The wedding itself should be a celebration for both the bride and groom, not just a day for the bride to live out her fantasy.  Therefore, I think the groom should have as much input as possible in the planning of the wedding.  I understand not every bride would want camo in her wedding so this suggestion has to be taken with some common sense.  Also as the one-time mother of a groom, I think it is nice to involve the groom's mother as much as is feasible.  I know all families are different and this should not be a hard and fast rule, but as I said, as much as is feasible under the circumstances.


4. What's the best advice your father ever gave you?

My dad was such a wise man and I trusted him explicitly.  Even after and perhaps especially after 24 years, I still miss him and his wisdom.  I do think the best advise he gave was from Proverbs 3:5-7.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart Libby, and lean not on your own understanding;  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.  Do not be wise in your own eye, (which you are prone to do) but fear the Lord and stay away from evil."
5. Your favorite movie where a father features heavily in the storyline?

The original "Father of the Bride" with Spencer Tracy and Elizabeth Taylor.


6. Insert your own random thought here.


I did not have a fancy wedding by any stretch of the imagination, and wouldn't have had one as nice as it was if not for special aunts.

Needless to say I didn't have a professional photographer, but the husband of our pianist who volunteered as their wedding gift to us.

But, since we're talking about weddings and Father's, this is the only picture I have of just the two of us together that day.  It is not the best nor is it very complimentary of either of us, but it is still precious to me.


HAPPY FATHER'S DAY DAD!

12 comments:

  1. Well I think your front door looks great! Stopping by as your Hodgepodge neighbour. You were a beautiful bride and I can understand that photo being precious. Sadly my father passed away before I was married but my Godfather was a great substitute.

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  2. A good pair of shoes is certainly worth the extra money you have to pay for them.

    I really, really dislike shoe shopping though and will usually push it off as long as possible.

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  3. I think the painted door looks great! I really do like it even better. I do agree with especially the first sentence of your PS on the marriage question. So many young women act like it's all about them. It's lovely that you have that photo of you and your dad.

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  4. The painted door looks great! My daughter is involving her future mother-in-law in a lot of the wedding planning...which as mother-of-the-bride I don't mind at all. Great pic of your dad and you on your wedding day. I don't have many pics of my dad which is sad, but people didn't take many pics years ago.
    Great advice from your father.

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  5. BEAUTIFUL bride!
    The excessive weddings of today get on my nerves... It was sort of like that when we married in '94, but not quite like now.
    I love the classic FotB too!
    (came from www.rainydayinmay.com, not where it links me with google :))

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  6. That is a great picture of the two of you - I can why you treasure it! And I LOVE the door!!! It looks fantastic!! I am now following you - you can follow back at Annster's Domain if you want! Have a great day!

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  7. I love your front door and the sun damage is the main reason we went with an iron door on our new house. There’s no upkeep involved and it’s beautiful and fits our house. We struggled with front door upkeep at our old house for 35 years. 😀 great answers and pictures!

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  8. Well truthfully, whatever you think of the photo with your Dad, it blessed me as I can tell from reading your blogs that your Dad was a precious man and that moment for you was the sweetest!! I think your house looks wonderful and good thinking on the door. We have to have solar screens on the large windows in the front of our house. Such wisdom on the weddings. It's tiresome these days to see weddings turn into such opulent displays and hear about selfish brides. Being a stepmom, I was able to be objective and also am happy to say that in the weddings of our son and daughter, I was included in all the process thanks to everybody cooperating together. It was a blessing for me.

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  9. I think your front door look great...prefect color, very complimentary! Great answers to #3...so many important decisions like those can be missed these days. I wish I would have thought to add a photo of my dad to my post...what a sweet photo of yours walking you down the aisle!

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  10. The door looks wonderful. Gives a whole new updated look to the house. That's great advice about a wedding. Now that is one precious photo you have with your dad.

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  11. Hi, I'm visiting from the HOdgepodge. It's nice to meet you.

    Your house is beautiful, and both the wood door and the painted one are equally gorgeous.

    I really agree with you about the wedding day being the groom's day too. My daughter got married 2 1/2 years ago, and their wedding was definitely a combination of them both. The men (groom included) all wore jeans and button down shirts with no ties. To have insisted on suits would not have been Scott at all. Also, daughter and I really did try to include his mom in things. While she and I went alone to bridal gown shop, we scheduled fittings for when his parents were in town for a visit, so that his mom could go along with us. We wanted her to feel a part of things.

    Blessings,
    Patti @ Celebrating Our Days

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  12. That's a sweet picture. I might dig one out of me and my dad on my wedding day as we celebrate an anniversary the day before Father's Day. I think the door looks great and understand weathering. I don't like when wood looks faded from the sun and think painting is a great option! I think the color works well.

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